Flashback Friday: Hoeness deleted

GREAT MORNING! Guess who’s back? Thank God its Friday! Right now I’m in Chicago but not for long. I left Vegas last night, slept through the flight and now I’m on my way to Connecticut. I miss my family so I’m going to visit them and figure out my next move when I get there. Now I noticed the girls have been speaking OUT about their past so I thought we should talk about it! First Draya Michele who I’ve never seen in person but who has iconically deleted her hoeness and then Brittany Renner who I have seen once in the club along time ago in Atlanta. She was really nice to everyone.

Lets start with Draya Michele. I always thought she looked like my cousin Victoria to me. I never watched any of the reality shows on my own. I only hear about it and watch clips from my phone. If I’m at a friend’s house and they’re obsessed with reality TV than I may catch an episode or two. However I know who some of the characters from the show are like Draya for example. I’m not sure when but she did an interview with the breakfast club where she said “I wouldn’t consider myself a hoe no more. Your hoeness can get deleted after a certain amount of time.” Everyone clowned her for that statement but SIS said what she SAID! Recently she sat down with The Shade Room to do an interview and they asked her about it. I respect her for still standing on what she said. They asked her to clarify what she meant. Her response was “When you don’t have to do certain things anymore.”

That to me is HER way of saying “My past doesn’t define my future.” Now Brittany Renner has been having the most interesting type of attention recently from the media. They have her as some groupie mascot for athletes. I know she got pregnant by somebody but I’m not sure who. People accused her of “grooming” a young man into being with her so she could get pregnant. Listen, I don’t know if any of this is true but what I do know is sis just revealed her body count! I SAID WOW! I would have never thought we would be openly having this conversation. Okay sis is shaking the table with this.

Brittany Renner revealed her body count is 35 and I gotta admit that is pretty high but I feel that the men she’s going after have probably had sex with the same amount of people or double, triple or quadruple maybe. What’s after quadruple? Whatever that is, add it to. Both women, Draya and Brittany are getting dragged for being “hoes”. However I believe HOE stands for Having Outrageous Energy.

If you add the S, than you have “hoes” which also means Having Outrageous Energy Sexually. That is my definition of a HOE. I think its messed up how women get shamed for being sexual yet men get praised for it. If we are being honest, I believe that if a man can turn his life around and settle down, than a woman can ALSO. That concept “You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife” is a myth. You can’t spell housewife without a HO-E at the end. When I was younger people used to always call me a HOE.

I wouldn’t really consider myself a HOE but my hyper-sexuality was a trauma response. Maybe if my mother was alive I would have focused on other things but when I was in school I just did whatever. When I think about my childhood, I had way more “relationships” and “boyfriends” back when I was a minor than suddenly once I became legal, I wasn’t as “boy crazy” anymore. Literally, the day I turned 18 something in me SWITCHED. I think I was hyersexual because I was seeking validation.

A lot of people think that if you don’t have a father than your more than likely going to be a HOE seeking male validation but I would disagree. I think it has a lot to do with guidance in general. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a man or woman. If you have the right person in your life telling you how valuable you are than you wouldn’t seek external validation. I never had that. Instead, I got shamed and blamed for my body and people assumed I was having sex very young. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 19. However, I’ve heard so many rumors about me being HOE. This is from guys who wanted me to give them attention but I refused. What do they do? Make up stories. Isn’t that what they do to famous people? Any way, the craziest rumor I heard about me was that I was giving fellatio.

To make matters worse, the guy who started the rumor was my childhood friend’s ex boyfriend. I was mad at her for dating him but I should’ve known THEN she was an opp. Why date someone who LIED on me. I’ll never forget the day I called him out on it. Literally, we called him on three way. He was telling everyone I gave him fellatio at a basketball game and one day he told the wrong guy.

There’s a Nigerian guy I grew up with that really liked me named Able. This man was HUGE and he used to beat people up for fun. Everyone was scared of him. He liked me because I was like the ONLY African at that time. He asked me about the rumor one day on the phone. I was astonished! “Who told you that!” Able told me that this rumor had been going on for damn near a year. I hadn’t even got to High School yet and they were already making up stories and rumors about me being a hoe. I’m going to assume because I would sneak out the house to see boys or go to High School parties in 8th grade.

That doesn’t mean that I’m giving fellatio at basketball games. That’s just wild. I was so mad but I knew I couldn’t do anything about it. I tried to tell Able it was a lie but he was skeptical. He didn’t know who was telling the truth. All the hoe rumors he heard made him upset because he thought I was a respectable young lady I guess. So one day he asked to call him out on it. I said YEAH CALL HIM!

So we called Buddy. I put my phone on mute and I let him speak. He asked him about the fellatio. Then you hear him say “Yes bruhhh I already told you that it happened.” I took my phone off mute. “WHEN DID THAT HAPPEN AGAIN? WHY ARE YOU LYING ON ME? I NEVER DID THAT!”

Suddenly he got scared. “Man, Able why you starting drama? You know I don’t do drama.” That’s when Able called him out, “Just admit you lied bruh! That’s LAME bruh. I can’t F with you bruh.”

Literally that whole situation ended their friendship. I feel that experience made me want to be “private” about who I dated in High School. I only had 1 1/2 boyfriends during my 4 years but I used to hang out with a lot of boys. When I graduated I wasn’t focused on anything other than myself.

Being shamed for sexual activity is LAME as a woman. I think its extremely unfair. I also believe my celibacy was rooted in shame too. That’s another reason why I ended it. It seemed that every time I tried to be sexual, someone was always shaming me for it OR I would get put in a box. Men would sexually objectify me because I’m African. They don’t care NOTHING about Africa except that women from Africa are “freaky” or “got big butts” or “good pooompoom” or WHATEVER. When I decided to be celibate I just wanted to be appreciated and liked for something OTHER THAN SEX.

People also forget that hypersexuality could be a sexual trauma response but the opposite can have the same effect. I believe I experienced both hyper sexuality and hypo sexuality all from sexual trauma.

This year I decided to delete my Only Fans. That was my way of deleting my hoeness. I never thought Only Fans was that bad until I saw the negative connotation behind the women who had one. People judge TF out of you and don’t take you seriously. I had one because I thought the platform was cool.

When the fire happened, I had to really rely on Only Fans for money. That’s when the shaming starts “You’re better than this! No man will ever take you seriously.” Well than how about you give me some money to buy a house so I don’t have to sleep in hotels every night. People love to shame women for doing what they gotta do for survival. One day I just told myself “I don’t need to do this anymore”.

I deleted my Only Fans not because of other people’s opinion but because where I wanted to go professionally. I also decided in 2024 not to show off my body as much anymore unless I’m getting paid. Reason why is because my waist beads have always been a part of me HOWEVER I don’t have to keep marketing my body. I feel that I have more to offer women and people in general than just showing off my body. Although my body is BANGING, I don’t think its meant for everyone’s eyes.

In conclusion, I don’t think anything is wrong with what Draya said. You absolutely CAN delete your hoeness and Brittany Renner can sleep with however many men she wants if that means MANY MEN, many many many many men, I wish her the best with it! IF that’s what she chooses to do. Just be safe sis and stay DUST FREE

Me Personally, I can’t have sex with that many people because it takes me damn near 3 years to find ONE person I’m even sexually attracted to. So more power to the other girls who have outrageous energy. I gotta REALLY like you to be a HOE again. I’m a saved woman until God knows when my right time will be. I don’t judge the girls who are giving it up. Instead, I applaud them for owning their sexuality. That is not easy for women. Being celibate diminished my sexual attraction to men. I started to be attracted to other things. If sex is all a man has to offer you sis PLEASE RUN FAST. If I can’t see myself being with you seriously than I definitely don’t want to have sex with you. Also being a HOE, isn’t that bad if you have standards to be honest. If you’re having sex with dusties than I will be judging you sis. But if you’re giving your body to men that can add to you or make your life better than DO YOU! All I know is when I start having sex, I will definitely be a HOE for my man any day

That’s all for now.

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Love Always,

Malon Mahotiere (Slim Shady)