Celibacy Challenge Countdown

Hey Queens! It’s Malon here and boy have I had a day! So let’s get into it! This morning someone reposted one of my posts from 2019 about my celibacy journey. Apparently I wrote a blog on it but I’ve removed all my previous blogs.

This post got some attention and it made me want to talk about where I am in my celibacy journey since it’s been soo long! If we are being honest, I stopped thinking about that because that stopped being my focus. I had been celibate so long that I didn’t see a problem with it. Actually I thought my decision was useful and beneficial. The reason why I want to talk about it is because that journey is over. No, I haven’t had sex yet but I’ve been OUTSIDE! When I’m outside I don’t have to have sex and that’s the beauty of celibacy. However I do have to pray that I won’t get sexually assaulted or violated in anyways. Which is why I really don’t like to date. THE DATING POOL GOT PEE and I don’t want to test the water. Dating this summer has been okay but dating in LA SUCKS! Ladies if you want to date a man I repeat DO NOT GO TO LA! That is the WRONG PLACE. You may as well get a man in Atlanta if that’s the case. Then my problem with guys out here is how feminine they are. It’s WEIRD. This guy asked me if ever paid for a date. I LOOKED AT HIM CRAZY. What do I look like? Why would I need to pay for a date? You know what his response “You can’t just show you care and take him out.” I’m thinking to myself??? There are other ways to show you care but why would a man want me to take him on a date just to show I care? I can’t show I care in other ways? I don’t know it was weird. But he really challenged my thoughts because then he claimed I wasn’t a “good person” and that’s when I wondered. Why do guys in LA wanna be the girl so bad? I have never paid for a date. I’m sorry if that makes me a bad person. OH WELL. I don’t date anyway so if I gotta pay than I’ll rather not anyway! Which speaking of paying and dating and places not to try it, Atlanta is definitely up there but I think Los Angeles is close to it. Now major cities are usually going to be a no to people but I love a big city. I can’t help it. Atlanta guys were to dangerous and questionable for me, you just never really know with them. You can’t trust them with your heart. Them boys are savages. They feel nothing and are pretty ruthless. I’m glad I left there. Leaving Atlanta, moving to LA, traveling this summer and then coming back to LA made me realize I don’t think LA is for me. Before I moved here I was thinking to move to Miami or New York. That’s why going there was such a urge for me: I’ve been wanting to go back for awhile but I didn’t think I would go back under those circumstances. When I got there, it reminded me of the last time I was there and how crazy and different things were except one thing, I WAS STILL IN THE STREETS. I met guys there. Now Miami guys are nice! I didn’t have to pay for ANYTHING EVER except when I was at the airport. However when I left all that fun, I was crying my eyes out. I didn’t want to go back to LA. I just realized that my feminine energy gets wasted in LA because we’re competing too much with it. From the women to the men, everyone just too feminine. I don’t know why that is but I don’t like it. I need someone MASCULINE. That is the opposite. MASCULINITY IS HOT! That’s what we want! I’m tired of these girlie men asking me for money and to take them on dates. WHERE THEY DO THAT AT? Even with the toxic men in Atlanta, I AINT NEVER PAID FOR A DATE! This is just absurd! Anyways, I’m ready to get off the streets! Babbbyyy I am TIRED. Which speaking of tired, I have a hip appointment tomorrow for my doctor and disability. This is a process that I’m adjusting to and it’s not easy. My job wants me to return to work but I’m not sure if I can or I should. I don’t know what I should do. All I know is I’m tired of working but I want to have fun! LA WAS OKAY! I had fun. It wasn’t all bad. Let me clarify because people seemed to be bothered by my instagram posts. LOS ANGELES ISNT ALL BAD. It’s just not for me. Hollywood isn’t all bad either but it does get really weird and that’s as much as im willing to say on it. The point is I’m leaving so I can be happy and FREE. Low key Los Angeles is giving slavery. I don’t know how or why but with the mind control and exploitation. Maybe I’ll be back to experience a better version. This will be my last month in Los Angeles. I want to go to New York and see my family, I miss them. I miss being around people that know me and love me. Being around all those Haitians in Miami made me miss my real Haitian family. Which speaking of my Haitian Family, my sister cousin Victoria Joline is finally coming to LOS ANGELES. That makes me excited and not so depressed about being here. Again, LA ISNT ALL BAD and neither is Atlanta but it ain’t safe! Victoria is coming for a Yacht Party. I joined a Travel Group when I first arrived to Los Angeles. I was attending film school at The Los Angeles Film School which I will be returning next month and one of my assignments was to go out to a “Hollywood event”. I was supposed to ask questions to a “celebrity or famous person”. Honestly don’t remember the assignment but I did the job. Anyway, I end up meeting the owner who also happens to be an actor. From there he asked me to join the group and BOOM! Now my cousin knows all about my life before and after moving out of Atlanta. When I met the owner I really wanted him and my cousin Victoria to meet! I kept talking about her to him! Yes I want to bring my cousin! Now that she’s coming, I feel a little weird because me and the travel group owner had a dispute and my cousin had to intervene: THAT WAS NOT PART OF THE PLAN AT ALL! I planned this great weekend for him and my cousin to finally meet and he totally blew the chance of a great first impression before she even arrived to Los Angeles. I was so disappointed by everything. I didn’t know how to feel. I didn’t want to attend the festivities but I already got my cousin to come for the weekend.

So before I leave LA, I gotta show my sister cousin a good time. Then we off to New York. Well technically Connecticut for her but I’m right behind her! This weekend will probably be my last weekend in LA so I might as well celebrate it with this yacht party. Despite our disputes, I want to still have a positive spirit because there could be a misunderstanding so I will be open minded. However there are things that can’t be undone. So we gonna have our OWN FUN. Me and Victoria have always been known to have some fun. When we link up, just know it’s some double trouble! So either way it goes, we’re going to have a great weekend REGARDLESS! I just want her to come so bad because I miss her! I’ve been so lonely in LA!!! But before I go, I need her to experience over here .

I WILL NEVER FORGET LA! This place will always hold a place in my heart but I can’t stay here. Mainly because my purpose has been fulfilled. The whole goal was to leave Atlanta, find yourself and meet better men to date so y’all can procreate. I did that and I think now I don’t have to be celibate if I don’t want to!

I want to challenge you ladies to remain celibate until you believe you have found the man deserving of giving your body to!

HOW LONG CAN YOU HOLD OUT? Chile……. It’s been since I was 20. I’m about to be 30. I feel like I’m a born again virgin. When I dated, I would tell guys that but then Sprinkle Sprinkle (Shera Seven) said that’s a turn off to guys so I stopped saying it. That’s how it feels though. I stopped having sex right before I joined the military to “change my life around”. I wanted to be more HOly so I got baptized and promised myself the next time I have sex it’s going to be with a man that is committed to me. WELL HERE WE ARE. It’s been damn near 10 years. I’m about to be 30 and all I want for my birthday is some BIRTHDAY SEX.

Yes I said it! I know that’s shocking coming from me but IT IS TIME! Maybe it will happen, maybe it won’t but we are praying for the best: my birthday at 29 was lonely and sad. I don’t need that again. This birthday needs to be special but I got time. My birthday isn’t until January. I’m counting down:

So here’s the challenge: as I countdown to my 30 birthday, you all keep count of how many days you have been celibate if you are or start your journey! After 30 days send me a message about how you feel and what you think celibacy has helped you see when it comes to dating and your relationships with men. Also tell me your goals

This weekend I can’t disclose the hotel location due to privacy of the group but I’ll be at Marina Del Rey beach and I’ll have waist beads with me! I’m OUTSIDE!

P.S. This journey requires resilience but any progress should be celebrated. Do your best and forget the rest!

Malon Mahotiere